Parental attitudes are defined as a phenomenon that includes the attitudes, values, beliefs and behaviors of parents about their children. Parental attitudes Parents' democratic, authoritarian, insensitive, perfectionist, negligent, ruling, punitive, protective or rejecting attitudes can have very different effects on the child.
In a family environment with a democratic parent attitude, parents are warm and caring. Within the framework of mutual love and respect, the existence and desires of the child are respected, the children are listened patiently and sensitively, the opinions of the children are taken in the decisions to be made within the family, the limits of the child's emotions and behaviors are limited, criticism is made not for personality but for his work. The child is trusted and supported. As the rules to be followed are pre-determined and the limits are drawn, the child knows which behavior he / she will be rewarded and which behavior he / she will be punished. It is seen that children who grow up in the family with this attitude are generally socially competent, resourceful, helpful, friendly, sensitive to the needs of other people, knowing what they want, and having self-confidence and social responsibility.
Authoritarian attitude parents impose prohibitions on which the child cannot comprehend the cause, criticize the personality and give verbal punishments as well as physical punishment. Children who behave well because of fear or to prevent a possible explosion of their parents are unable to develop the internal discipline that will serve them when they are away from authority. Developing beliefs that negative behaviors such as negative self-perception, self-confidence, reluctance, shyness and passive personality structure develop especially in boys, high self-esteem and lack of self-esteem and beliefs that their parents do not like themselves because of the love and the punishments applied frequently. due to, children; school and environment are aggressive, naughty, harm to others and failing in their lessons have been identified as children.
Extremely tolerant parents are warm and caring towards their children, do not control their children in any way, allow their children to make their own decisions on all issues, give unlimited rights to the child, no limitation on the child's behavior, sometimes even in the way of misconduct. with an indulgence. Parents with this attitude do not react to the fact that even if the child deliberately harms the environment, they do not accept this behavior. The children who grow up in this attitude feel insecure, become egocentric and exhibit rebellious and aggressive behaviors. Because they cannot learn the limits in their lives, they cannot cooperate with others and therefore fail in social relations. Even if it is taught what is right and what is wrong, because the practice and supervision are irregular, there is no limit to the behavior, the penalties are very inadequate and the child cannot gain the right behavior. Because they cannot gain the experiences they need to live and cannot prepare properly when they leave the family and enter into social life, they cannot follow the majority, they seem incompetent, shy, clumsy and cowardly.
Parents with an unstable and inconsistent attitude punish behavior that is tolerated one day on another, and do not explain why when they ask their children to do something and punish them. Parents, who are constantly unstable and unstable, convey their own inconsistencies to their children and the child is also surprised because he is constantly faced with inconsistent behaviors and attitudes. fears, delusions and problems that attract attention.
Parents who have overly protective attitude, meet all kinds of needs of the child by showing more control, care and attention than necessary, limiting all kinds of movements and relationships, making all kinds of decisions on behalf of the child, intervening even in events that the child does not need, many things that the child should do, children do not worry, tired, forced to do the thought themselves. Thus, they prevent the child from acting independently and self-confidence, causing them to become vulnerable, adaptable, over-dependent on others, externally supervised, constantly prone to be in the management of others, insecure and shy. Children who are raised in a family with this attitude do not blame themselves, but others. In fact, this addiction can continue throughout the child's life and expect the same protective attitude from his wife in the future. The child, who is raised in an extreme environment of protection and assistance at home, can leave a balanced, good-natured and happy impression among family members, but can be shy, unhappy and incompetent outside the home, in an environment where he is devoid of care. Overprotective parental behavior causes school phobia in children, wetting them under the night, being withdrawn and being shy.
Rejective and repulsive parents do not want the child for various reasons and have hostile feelings towards it. A positive self-esteem and self-esteem cannot develop in children who are raised in a family with this attitude, who have the feeling of rejection, and who lack the love, care and affection of their parents. Although it shows the expected behaviors, the child who is not accepted still has difficulty in distinguishing between approved and unapproved behaviors. Those who grow up in such an environment lack the vitality of normal children and are in an emotional hunger stemming from lovelessness.
Parents who have a supervisory and judgmental attitude aim to change the attitude and behavior of the child. Since the children of supervisory parents are under constant supervision, their minor misconceptions and mischief are not overlooked; and the correction is made. The child is expected to adhere strictly to the rules and must submit to the parents, regardless of the circumstances and circumstances.
Different behaviors develop in children who are raised in different attitudes. The role of the parent, which is a role model, affects the personality of the developing child.
